No matter how good we think we are at something, there’ll always be times when things go wrong, or don’t work out quite the way we planned.
The natural response to this is to give up, or believe that maybe we aren’t as good as we thought we were. ‘Fear of Failure‘ then tends to set in and often times, we pretend we never tried in the first place and move on to something else.
But, as I’ve mentioned several times before, failure is simply a state of mind and as such you have total control over it’s effectiveness.
Here are three simple tips to get you back on the road to greatness again:
Focus on the solution to the problem, not the problem itself.
By focussing on the problem, you’re unconsciously asking your mind to remember other occasions when a similar situation has ended the same way. This in turn drags down your confidence, which enforces the negative thoughts.
If you find yourself in this situation, simply ask yourself, “What’s one thing I could do differently that might improve this situation?”, or “What can I learn from this that’ll help me when I try again?” By replacing problem-focused thinking with solution-focused thinking allows you to move forward with enthusiasm and a sense of possibility.
Be on the lookout for any improvement to the current situation.
If the current problem seems to big to complete immediately, look for any improvement you’ve made, then build on it. Even small successes build confidence, optimism and motivation. Exactly the things you need to push on though the negative influences and on to eventual success.
Ask your Role Model.
If you think you’ve tried everything and you still can’t find the solution, ask yourself what your role model would do.
Everyone has someone they look up to, someone they aspire to be like. So, if it feels like there’s no hope for a solution ask yourself, “What would (name) do in this situation?”
Chances are, you’ll come up with something new to try!
Final Thought: Situations and problems occur, there’s nothing you can do about that. You can though, decide whether your response to them is negative, or positive.