How many times have you read, or heard of celebrities failing apart, or movie stars and rock stars overdosing on drugs, or alcohol?
These are people who, to all intents and purposes have an ideal fairytale life, with all the money, glamour and love anyone could ever require.
These people obviously cannot control their state of mind. They are relying on external influences to effect their internal moods.
There are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem and/or self-worth, but whatever happens, we should all try not to lose our own sense of self.
So what does it take to be a cut above the rest and to empower us to have an excellent life, even in the event of uncertainty?
The following self improvement tips will walk you through the steps to gaining back your self esteem and self confidence. If you apply these tips, the results will change your thinking immeasurably.
1. Know your purpose
Are you wandering through life with little, or no direction, simply hoping that you’ll find happiness, health and prosperity? Identify your life purpose, or personal mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your true destination.
This may seem a bit tricky at first, especially if you currently see yourself in a tight, or even dead end situation, but there’s always a way to turn things around and you can make a big difference to yourself.
2. Know your values
What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, love, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals for 2013, check your goals against your values. If a goal doesn’t align with any of your top five values – you may want to reconsider it or revise it.
3. Know your needs
Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged(significant), to be right(certainty), to have variety in your life(un-certainty), to be wanted, or needed(connection/Love)? There are so many people who’ve lived their lives without realising their dreams and most of them end up being stressed, or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get them met before it’s too late!
4. Know your passions
You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but they shouldn’t derail your chance to become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honour the people who have inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.
5. Live from the inside out
Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. For those of us who live in the city, it’s even hard to find the peace and quiet we want in our own home.
If you take the time each day to reflect on your achievements and be grateful what you already have in your life, you’ll soon find a huge list if reasons to believe you have a successful life.
6. Honour your strengths
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify them. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know with others.
7. Serve others
When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you’re true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you’ll get back much more than you could ever give. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.
Self-improvement is as much about improving the lives of those around you, as it is about improving your own life. Once you’ve mastered the ability to enrich the lives of others, you won’t believe how much your life changes for the better.
The difference between failing to control our inner thoughts and falling through the cracks, or alternatively, having an extraordinary life, lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the better.