All Diamonds Have Flaws – Five Things To Remember When Making Comparisons With Others

By John F Nepper



Have you ever fallen in love with a particular character in movie, or made a hero of a super-star athlete, or better yet, aspired to be just like some very visible person just because of how they appeared to be on the screen, in the sports arena or in the media?

I’ll be honest. I have. I fell in “love” over and over with Rachel Green(Jennifer Anniston) from the TV show Friends. She was pretty and had a personality that was both magnetic, and sexy. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, she never knew I “loved” her. Maybe it would have been a match made in heaven, but more likely, she would’ve eventually had to reveal herself as a human being, as would I. She glimmers like a diamond but all diamonds have flaws. Even the pretty, sexy, magnetic ones.

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How to Control Panic Attacks

In the first part of this mini series,Why am I having a panic attack?, we discussed the basic science behind why an attack takes place, and the effects that take place in your body.

In the second partWhat causes the mind to jump to conclusions? we discussed how a person can go from having one minor panic attack, to becoming house-bound and racked with fear.

boxerIn this final part, we’ll be discussing some of the simple steps you take to get back control of your life by beating the gremlins that are causing the fear.
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Why Panic Causes The Mind To Jump To Conclusions

mind-words  In the previous part of this series (if you missed the first instalment, you can find it here), we looked at one of the main reasons a person who suffers anxiety attacks becomes labelled with a resulting phobia. This week we’re going to look at why that person becomes phobic, when the cause is completely unrelated.

Let’s start by going back a bit to identify how the mind processes information…

Your mind is a huge library of your past experiences and the resulting smells, sights sounds, feelings and emotions.

It categorises these different events and experiences by linking certain aspect of them to each other in a sort of history chain. For instance a simple example would be that when you were a toddler, you probably touched a hot cup of tea, or a hot radiator, etc and the shock you felt would’ve imprinted on your mind that excessive heat is painful and should be avoided. The next time you approach something that gives off the same sensation of heat, your mind quickly takes you back to how you felt during the first encounter and you immediately move away from the source of further pain.

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